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We Are Not The Stories We Tell Ourselves

I’m just an ordinary guy who went through an extraordinary experience.

Here is my story.

For years, I told myself a story. That I was a victim of my past. That I was trapped in a life I didn’t recognize. That if my marriage ended, I’d be a failure—not just as a husband, but as a father.

Five days after my 43rd birthday, that story almost ended me.

I was married. I had two beautiful kids. I worked a blue-collar job in the film industry. On paper, I was doing everything I was supposed to. But inside? I was unraveling. After years of suppressing childhood traumas, after decades of numbing myself—whether with work, distractions, or anything else—I finally hit a breaking point.

One night, after a fight with my wife, I snapped. I walked upstairs, grabbed a bottle of Xanax, shook it—25 pills. “I could just take these and never wake up,” I thought.

And then, in the middle of that moment, an image flashed in my mind: my two kids, sitting in the living room, playing Uno. Laughing. Carefree.

That image literally saved my life.

In that moment, I had to make the biggest decision I have ever made as a man, to check myself into the behavioral health unit at UCLA Medical Center. Two days later, my wife visited me—not to offer support, but to tell me she was filing for divorce.

Now, all of this sounds dark and sad, but I want to be very clear with you right now. This is the best thing to ever happen to me.

After UCLA, the doctors suggest my next step is to go to a residential treatment center. The term “treatment center” immediately sounds like rehab. But for me? It’s what I call my Mental Health College Experience. Every day from 9 AM to 6 PM, I sat in classes, learning everything I could about the mind, emotions, trauma, and healing. CBT. DBT. ACT. Mindfulness. Breathwork. Gratitude. Journaling.

And for the first time in my life, I started to understand:

We Are Not The Stories We Tell Ourselves.

I had spent my whole life believing the story that I was broken. That I was destined to repeat the cycles of my past. That I wasn’t enough. But those were just stories. And once I learned how to question them—how to rewrite them—everything changed.

I walked out of that treatment center with a mission: to help others break free from the stories that hold them back. To teach men—especially men—that it’s okay to feel, to heal, to ask for help. That you don’t have to carry the weight of your past alone.

Today, I’m a speaker, a coach, and a guide for people ready to rewrite their own narratives.

And if you’re reading this, feeling stuck in a story that no longer serves you, hear me when I say this:

You are not broken.

You are not your past.

And you are not alone.

If I can find my way through, so can you.

And I’m here to help.

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